tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post571839151735522389..comments2024-03-17T04:14:05.997-05:00Comments on Sam, Coffee, Money, & Thyme: Thrifty Thursday- Curbing Moochy RelativesSAMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-20748727292961117022022-06-03T07:48:10.407-05:002022-06-03T07:48:10.407-05:00Wow, that is beyond! I'm with Sam. Our family ...Wow, that is beyond! I'm with Sam. Our family members are occasionally lazy or thoughtless, but definitely nothing at that level. I'd absolutely lose it. We owned our vacation house for 10+ years, and there were a few extended relatives that were never allowed to use the house. We'd just always say there was a conflict with the date. It's awkward, but some people just don't have common sense. The relatives you describe sound absolutely awful!Hawaii Plannerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04760426766801381563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-30492998536557715432022-06-02T19:24:37.431-05:002022-06-02T19:24:37.431-05:00I figured that's what you meant. She did offer...I figured that's what you meant. She did offer which was sweet.SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-28110211253603969962022-06-02T18:31:40.942-05:002022-06-02T18:31:40.942-05:00She is still technically your home kid and falls u...She is still technically your home kid and falls under house rules, plus you take enough to cover her. I was talking about the adults who are out of school and working.Anne in the kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01533249631969001657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-52624434976245794732022-06-02T16:22:42.471-05:002022-06-02T16:22:42.471-05:00WTF!!!!! Ok, a little spoiled delayed adulting is ...WTF!!!!! Ok, a little spoiled delayed adulting is one thing, but your describing thieves. How did you let it happen more than once? Unreal and I'm livid knowing how hard you work, and how generous you are.SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-52635990316344064432022-06-02T16:20:46.739-05:002022-06-02T16:20:46.739-05:00I'll pay attention over the summer. It's n...I'll pay attention over the summer. It's not a hill I want to die in and be the wicked cheapskate aunt. But, it's annoying. SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-8379859590439577952022-06-02T16:18:09.344-05:002022-06-02T16:18:09.344-05:00It's something that makes you feel like the ba...It's something that makes you feel like the bad guy to be annoyed with, yet, I don't get the adulting not adulting thing. SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-66920419138984905222022-06-02T13:55:03.928-05:002022-06-02T13:55:03.928-05:00We had terrible problems with Hub's older brot...We had terrible problems with Hub's older brother and his wife who had 5 kids and never contributed. The brother is cheap and selfish and the wife is just selfish. As in she would go get herself a Hamberger at a fast food place and eat it in front of her kids and tell them she would feed them when she got home. I was horrified, so I bought them food. This happened more than once and I put a stop to that. They also had these same kids ask for a specific toy for Christmas, which we brought out and then after we realized they had not bought them anything we stopped doing that. It took about three years for us to get the way the wind blew. Finally we started to assign days that each family would be responsible for cooking. They still did not cook or provide food for the day. I remember taking the cold cereal that I had for my kids and hiding it in the car. She had 4 boys and a girl and these were big 6',2",6',4" boys. She got mad because I took the cereal to my car and she went out to the car after asking Hubs for the keys and got the cereal and her son finished off the box. They were a nightmare to do anything with. Actually hub's whole family will take advantage of you financially if you let them. It is something in their blood I swear. SO embarrassing, for me and for them. I just don't get it.Out My windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13456481267171643227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-80287073543294305872022-06-02T12:44:26.562-05:002022-06-02T12:44:26.562-05:00Maybe a family meeting and email to all who use th...Maybe a family meeting and email to all who use the cabin with some food rules for sharing the cabin - if you're an adult and are coming to stay and eat - bring some food and beverages with you, so that we all share in the cabin food expenses.One Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00369132659573259613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-88412361286831756422022-06-02T12:37:36.533-05:002022-06-02T12:37:36.533-05:00I would be horrified if my kids showed up somewher...I would be horrified if my kids showed up somewhere anywhere empty-handed, but then I guess it's so easy over here to just bring a bottle of wine. Sharing communal living space and food with others is always a difficult dance to master, isn't it!Treadershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613671137557939083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-68186876418974245852022-06-02T11:00:19.512-05:002022-06-02T11:00:19.512-05:00I agree- who knows what food was brought by whom- ...I agree- who knows what food was brought by whom- except those that never bring, obviously it was not theirs. My kids do- even the college kid asked what she could bring, though I brought more for her as I still feel responsible while she's in school. She needs her money to establish her grown up life.SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-46817106999985091182022-06-02T10:57:30.261-05:002022-06-02T10:57:30.261-05:00I'm a generous host, but this was not us hosti...I'm a generous host, but this was not us hosting. Hopefully he'll grow up. I've got nieces and nephews in my side that come to Christmas or my sister's annual 4 the of July and never offer either. I think their parents need to curb that. SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-34842081609955239562022-06-02T10:55:13.986-05:002022-06-02T10:55:13.986-05:00We need to think every purchase these days. We'...We need to think every purchase these days. We've got a plumbing mess right now that's going to cost a fortune.SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-30534306797798358572022-06-02T10:54:30.539-05:002022-06-02T10:54:30.539-05:00I was waiting for my 21 year old to say something ...I was waiting for my 21 year old to say something to him, as she was annoyed that he drank the last two beers she selected. I did speak up when he was going for burger 3, and said his young cousin ( another nephew) hadn't eaten a burger yet. SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-78702916580398933432022-06-02T10:52:15.648-05:002022-06-02T10:52:15.648-05:00Yes, you are right. If everyone left stuff it beco...Yes, you are right. If everyone left stuff it becomes a potential mess. That's a reason I brought home too. I agree, contributing funds is helping. My son obviously can't bring a dish to pass, but he'll pick up things at the store- pickles, snacks, beer to share.SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-70981402847253763542022-06-02T10:49:58.354-05:002022-06-02T10:49:58.354-05:00His sister is the same- a touch better, but now sh...His sister is the same- a touch better, but now she's got a whole family so will be interesting to see if she changes. She brings dishes for holidays. My kids always have post college.SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-78767833950654724462022-06-02T10:48:39.261-05:002022-06-02T10:48:39.261-05:00It makes more sense to bring home unused items. We...It makes more sense to bring home unused items. We could be back in a day or it could be weeks. SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-43214652890765416142022-06-02T10:43:07.057-05:002022-06-02T10:43:07.057-05:00That is the downside of a communal dwelling. There...That is the downside of a communal dwelling. There is no way to legitimately gripe about someone using something left in the freezer, so it is best just to bring it all home.<br />BTW all adult offspring need to be contributing!Anne in the kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01533249631969001657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-90082836072230811642022-06-02T09:43:37.864-05:002022-06-02T09:43:37.864-05:00A young adult coming with empty hands means they&#...A young adult coming with empty hands means they've been shown they never have to come with anything. Good on you for keeping the food that is yours and using up extras. As a Caribbean child, I only go hands empty to very close friends places if it is a casual get together. jjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07077039940023067584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-88982733413812350602022-06-02T09:39:51.792-05:002022-06-02T09:39:51.792-05:00Contributing $$ to your parents when you're th...Contributing $$ to your parents when you're their guest, definitely counts !! jjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07077039940023067584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-75120931094920419062022-06-02T08:54:41.035-05:002022-06-02T08:54:41.035-05:00Hubby wanted to buy a used wagon at $1000 for haul...Hubby wanted to buy a used wagon at $1000 for hauling wood. I asked why the trailer we have with the removable sides we built almost 5 yrs ago was not good enough. He is thinking. LOLChef Owingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232750876170243171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-15960036868659763362022-06-02T08:51:49.991-05:002022-06-02T08:51:49.991-05:00I can see how a now adult younger generation could...I can see how a now adult younger generation could stick with their habit of not contributing. Perhaps its time for the adult young cousins to have a meeting about stepping up as a group. That being said, having a vacation cottage on a lake to spend time at sounds heavenly.Juhlihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14440147890620303894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-28084644566978961022022-06-02T08:35:06.484-05:002022-06-02T08:35:06.484-05:00One of my pet peeves with our vacation house was t...One of my pet peeves with our vacation house was that people would always leave random things in the freezer, because they didn't want to pack it home. Well, eventually, it's all got to either be used up or tossed, and when it's not your stuff to start with, it's both less appealing & harder to use up. Someone broke our freezer by leaving an entire bag of ice inside (didn't shut properly), causing the freezer to defrost, all of the food to be ruined, and the defrosting caused water, which damaged the attached wall. After that, I made a sign to please not leave anything in the freezer. :-) I really do miss our vacation house, but zero of the logistics that come with having a house that other people use. Even with all of the best will in the world, it's a hassle. <br /><br />We have a couple of cousins who don't bring things to family events. They are the youngest, and they are also now 30+, and just come along with their parents. (They don't live together). My mom has taken to start assigning them things to bring, because they never offer or bring anything otherwise. I also don't bring anything, even when I show up with my family of four, but that's because we've flown in. I always contribute money, to cover the extra cost of hosting, and/or for family events. They are all at my parents house, so they are totally fine with that. But, it does sometimes make me feel like a mooch! Hawaii Plannerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04760426766801381563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-3696251074397064532022-06-02T08:25:13.491-05:002022-06-02T08:25:13.491-05:00I think single men of any age are prone to just go...I think single men of any age are prone to just going and eating. No. They need to learn to pick up something like Cokes or ice, anything to share since they eat food others brought. Of course, I would never dare show up, with or without Tommy, empty-handed. He has no qualms about going to communal meals with nothing. <br /><br />I don't blame you for bringing home food you might leave in the freezer to use later if it is eaten when you return to eat it. <br /><br />Top Gun did not impress me the first time, so I will skip this one.Practical Parsimonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08419071209412207674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6173509801114364154.post-40233204808821491852022-06-02T07:38:37.805-05:002022-06-02T07:38:37.805-05:00I've never shared a space with family but I ca...I've never shared a space with family but I can see where it would be difficult. I don't think it's cheap of you to take the meat home with you. That would be frustrating knowing you left something and then finding it is gone when you return.<br />I am with you 100% on Tom Cruise. NOT a fan! <br />You're lucky to have a good breakfast/brunch place. That is something I really miss.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10808093713899800649noreply@blogger.com