I'm not a slave to fashion-no one would ever put me in the fashionista category, but I don't think I would be a nominee for What Not to Wear either. I like to look clean, neat, and appropriately dressed, but don't have the knowledge and probably wouldn't care if I did, to wear the latest designer styles or follow makeup trends. I don't throw money at name brand products when the less expensive off brand does the trick, but I have a few favorites products I cling to. I love a nice apricot facial scrub, and let it do double duty as an elbow and knee exfoliator. I can get out the door, from shower to hair coiffed in fifteen minutes, so am thrifty with time as well. That last bit was ingrained since childhood as I had so many siblings, and a one bathroom house, I had to learn to be fast. This extended into my adult hood, with college roommates, and marrying a man that seems to need considerably more grooming time. As the kids got older, I also had to compete with teenagers for the bathroom as well.
So where am I going with this? As I get older, I'm finding my scraped back, get out the door routine might be fine for every day, but when it comes to going out with friends and my husband at night, I'd like to look a bit more put together, as opposed to thrown together. I know Facebook is at least one part exaggeration, and another part choice photography, but so many of my friends and acquaintances seemed to have blossomed in their empty nester years, and I still look like the car pool lane mom of three. I don't mean they look like jet setters, magazine models, or presidential candidates, but they look self-assured and confident. A couple friends look like the stylish grandmas I hope to be someday; playing it cool with their young grandkids, sporting jeans and just the right tops. A work friend can wear scarves like no one I know. She doesn't have an extensive work wardrobe, but has scarves by the dozen, and mixes and matches them depending on her day, or color she wants to accent.
My one claim to middle years self-confidence is my relatively wrinkle free and spot free complexion. I wasn't one for sun bathing as a teen, and was usually wearing a cap of some sort when I was out in the sun. Perhaps my lack of convoluted beauty routine helped-less scrubbing and pulling on my skin. For makeup though, even when I took the time, it was nothing more than a little foundation, blush, and mascara. Lip stick and eye shadows kind of scare me as I picture that I will look like one of those carnival caricature drawings.
Here is my plea for help. What do you focus on for those special nights out? What have you added to your day routine that has helped you perk up your self-confidence? What are you go to "glam" products? Do you have signature clothes pieces that help you feel like you are making your own statement? Please join in the conversation. I love the idea of using vintage and repurposed items-old things worn in new ways, so those of you who have done a makeover with your own closet, I want to learn from you. Blog pages you rely on are appreciated.