Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 29, 2015

A Little Bantering Between the Sexes

I love the guys in my life. However, on more than a few occasions, I've heard my husband make a stupid joke or a statement that is slightly disparaging and puts all women in a certain frame of mind.  While I have not heard my son do the same, I can't imagine he hasn't smiled or laughed or been exasperated at "women."  I'm no shrinking violet when it comes to this, and usually my husband finishes his sentence looking at me pretty sheepishly, knowing he's going to get an earful. 

I too am equally likely, at times to make general statements about men.  My favorite joke around Christmas is "What would have happened if it had been the Three Wise Women instead of the Three Wise Men? They would have asked directions, arrived on time,helped deliver the baby, cleaned the stable, brought practical gifts, and made a hot dish." 

This little video is a couple years old, and while in French, is pretty self explanatory.  I have more than once been without a corkscrew and have purchased a couple in a liquor store while on vacation. I have several cheap versions now just cluttering my kitchen utensil drawer. I did a "share" on Facebook, and the following interchange of comments began. 

Me: I'm so impressed with this trick.
Male Friend: Let me guess how many women will repost this.  Got to have their wine.
Female Friend: Notice it's a man narrating the video. 
Male Cousin: Sounds like a need for a new paint job and carpet.  Must have been a woman that produced it.
Me: But it must have been a man that caused the woman to need the wine so badly they'd risk the wall and carpet. 

Unless meant to be intentionally hurtful, the little bantering between the sexes is harmless. There are inherent differences between people, and gender is one of those differences that  can define and unite a group. There is a sense of cohesiveness I get from my sisters and girlfriends I just don't get from the guys. The differences are there, and yes, can be fodder for humor.  Using the differences to form biases used to make decisions or to keep someone in a place or role they do not want to be in is another story.



Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Women of Today I Admire

Throughout history, women have quietly and not so quietly led cultural gains, civil movements, and nations with a different vibe than their male counterparts. I often wonder if many of the atrocities of the world would have ever happened had more women been in the role of decision maker at that time.  There were cruel and renowned for being vicious women in history of course, but even then I might ignorantly suspect that the actions were a sort of rebellion to some suppressed need to be heard earlier, or response to violence and oppression perpetrated on them, gone to far.

In 2015, it is more than time for women to be taking over the reigns in leadership from political office to corporate office, school boards, and civic movements. A 2013 Boston Globe article stated that married women contribute 47% of the household income, up from 38% in 1988.  Boston Globe Furthermore, this rise happened when here is still a persistence wage gap where women earn $ .76 to every $1.00 for the same job men earn. Surely that kind of significance in societal change should be reflected at the top more than it is.

While I'm not a "burn the bra" kind of feminist, I feel it is right and good that women uplift each other, and defend and speak out for those that can't. I  believe teaching each other new skills, sharing ideas, and giving of ones own assets to help build each other up are steps towards closing the gap between the haves and the have nots, without detracting anything from the sharers own reserves. This is part of why I enjoy blog land.  Most bloggers will earn nothing from putting their ideas out there, but the collective camaraderie of the various subject matter provides meaningful information to the reader, even if that meaning is just a good laugh on a tough day. No offense meant to the men folk out there, but the words hit woman to woman with a different note.

So who do I admire today?  Whether you like or dislike her politics, Hillary Clinton ranks way up there for me on admiration.  She raised a teenage daughter in the most public house in the world, into a person who from all indications, grew into a charming and caring young woman. She fought for her own dignity and  personal respect and for her family amongst scandal and ridicule, and moved forward with strength. I still haven't made up my mind if she would make a good president, but surely her fortitude needs to be considered if she makes it onto the next ballot.  I guess I admire each of the first ladies that occupied the White House, many who had to take on the role of protecting their still young children, from all the stress, pressure, and condemnation that comes from being married to the most powerful leader in the world.

I admire women coaches, myself having been one for years, knowing it can be a tough commitment.  Teaching young female athletes the skills,  but also the humility that needs to come with winning, and the dignity behind doing your best, but still losing. While the candidate pool for high school and college women's sports coaches is probably narrow, it is frustrating to see so few women coaches in these ranks.  Even in the young traveling ball sports, women coaches are often sidelined as the youth get older, in favor of  anchoring teams with men coaches. Pat Summit, former Tennessee "Lady" Volunteers NCAA basketball coach holds the record for the coach, male or female, with most wins in US college basketball. read more about Pat Summitt  Her career ended too early with the diagnosis of early onset Alzheimer's disease.

I would not struggle a bit in making a full page list of women, famous or famous to just me, whom I think deserve admiration.  Many of my children's teachers would be on that list.  DD#1 is on that list, who despite battling anxiety, still pushed herself to experience the new and unknown. My mother in law, despite my always awkward relationship with her, is to be admired.  With no post secondary education, she was the right hand of her husband, keeping the books, handling the finances, as he grew a small initial partnership in a barber shop into  a grand portfolio of real estate and investments that have allowed them to lead the retirement life they both dreamed of.  If I was on anyone's list, I would hope it is for what I have done with my life and for whom I have done those things for. 

She stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her way,
she adjusted her sails.  -Elizbeth Edwards