What I need though is a phrase that gives me that instant image of what incessant negativity looks like. I have been harboring doomsday feelings in every corner of my life lately, some probably with justification, but most blown out of proportion. I find they are creeping into happy moments, and interfering with relationships and momentum. It's keeping me whining about the flaws and work needed in my house instead of getting things done. Others are noticing, I fear. At a not so great meeting earlier in the week, where I thought I was proactively raising issues in a constructive way, my colleague had an opposite response. His perception of me being a negative person hit me hard in the face. I spoke with a friend about this on a long walk. She said to me, “it sounds like you need a new pair of glasses.” We’ve all heard the phrase “see the world through rose colored glasses”, but she was suggesting that I was doing the opposite. We laughed and kept walking.
I’ve been thinking a lot since that walk though and her analogy. While people shouldn’t live in denial that problems and issues will go away if you just think positive thoughts, it is equally true that few situations are unresolvable, and other people really are not out to muck-up your day. Maybe I have a touch of the old summer complaint, or maybe it is the dog days of August sucking away my good mood. Whatever it is, I’m going to see if I can rustle up a picture in my head of my sun glasses coming off, and new glasses coming on and see if that helps. They won’t be rose colored either-just plain, ordinary, and clear.