My beautiful daughter is turning 31 tonight at 9:59 pm. It's her golden birthday, and the poor sweetheart is nursing her mouth another day before going back to work tomorrow. The timing stinks as no doubt she would have been gone for the weekend both enjoying Halloween and birthday festivities. Instead, she's joining her dad for the Vikings game and I'm going to make her a butternut squash/ mock soft mac and cheese, plus a frozen smoothie for a treat, though she's still to avoid too cold and too hot, so it will be melty.
She's been the person closest to me for the last few years. We've had walks and girls dinner, and movie nights, and work from home sessions. She's me all over in so many ways. But honestly, so much braver, more fiercely independent, not willing to settle for less than she deserves, more than me. That perseverance and integrity to who she is can create periods of aloneness and different challenges. (Like sticking to a vegan diet when your limited to soft foods). She was the child that stood up to bullies in school and demanded explanations from college professors when they arbitrarily under scored a project, and successfully got the grade deserved. She's the girl that looked out for other girls in bars in Milwaukee, or London, or LA, or Bohunk middle of nowhere, when there was not so clear but present danger. She's the best younger sister to her brother and older sister to my youngest I could have hoped for. She's their number one ally.
She's relocated multiple times for her career, moving to places she knew no one. Now, she's figuring out how to sustain a career in the arts self employed. In the weeks last spring where indoor gatherings outside of your household were against Executive Order in Minnesota, she got through those weeks living and working alone, walking, running, and working out for hours. She also self publised two poetry and photography books, donating all earnings to organizations that support those struggling with mental health, even after busting her gut to start a non-profit herself to shed even more light on the issue.
Suffice it to say, I love this child of mine with every ounce of my being. If I could wave a magic wand to take all her current and future pain away and make all her dreams come true, I would. Being who she is, she wouldn't let me, knowing no one is immune to experiencing both the highs and lows of life. I'll end this post by sharing something with her I've recently read. These are some mighty lucky people.
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What a sweet tribute to your daughter! Nothing feels better than knowing that your parents are proud of you. Wishing her a very Happy Birthday! May all her dreams come true.
ReplyDeleteVery much appreciated. Shes a gem.
DeleteHappiest of birthday wishes to your girl!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely tribute! She sounds like an amazing woman!
She reads m blog, so hopefully will see all th ekind words.
DeleteWhat a beautiful gift for your daughter! Happy Birthday!
ReplyDeleteI do love her-and every bt is form my heart.
DeleteI can just see your daughter manning the barricades at the Bastille. Good girl, we need more people like that - and happy birthday to your lovely daughter. You must both be very proud of her!
ReplyDeleteThey would not have wanted to see her coming down the road with pitchfork in hand!
DeleteWhat a lovely description of your daughter. She sounds amazing. Happy birthday!
ReplyDeleteShe truly is a good daughter. Fiercely her own being though.
DeleteHello Sam, Your daughter is evidently quite a person, and of course the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, so we can give her parents a lot of the credit. Your basic message is to do the the most and best with what resources you have (financial and otherwise), and she has taken this to heart.
ReplyDelete--Jim
She is a hard worker and doesn't sit idle and wait for things to happen.
DeleteMeh. Apples don't fall far. xoxo
ReplyDeleteThanks, Meg. You know how to raise independent thinkers as well!
DeleteHappy 31 and I hope her mouth heals soon!
ReplyDeleteIt's getting there-she says it feels weird, but managing the pain.
DeleteYour daughter sounds like a lovely lady and I wish her a Happy Birthday and best wishes for many more. You can be proud that she takes after you and has taken those characteristics and expanded them to incorporate what she is looking for out of life. She's accomplished a lot in her few years and I hope the adventure continues for her. Ranee (MN)
ReplyDeleteShe definitely has a lot more building to do in her life, but she's the type that will likely never coast even once certain milestones are met.
DeleteMy middle child is most like me, and has tributes similar to your middle child. Happy Birthday to her.
ReplyDeleteThank you. She has wonderful attributes.
DeleteHappy, Happy Birthday to your daughter.
ReplyDeleteAnd to you: Well Done Mom!
With her, not much of me after about age 2!
DeleteI hope your daughter has had a lovely day. She always sounds like a wonderful person when you write about her. Your love for your children is easy to see in your posts.
ReplyDeleteI do love them all-perhaps a bit too intensely in how I write (or act), but I'm happy they al are so independent minded and not just checking off boxes for life.
DeleteAw, what a sweet ode to your daughter! Happy Birthday to her!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Sheila. I mean every word.
DeleteI have son who turn 31 last April. I did take care of someone who daughter was born on the 31st of Oct.
ReplyDeleteWishing her a very Happy Birthday.
Coffee is on and stay safe
My husband wanted me to "wait", LOL!
DeleteMany happy returns to the dear one!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Spo. I hope your begger night was a lot of fun.
DeleteSo as not to forget, I'm leaving one big thank you to all of you for the nice words and birthday greetings on her behalf!
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday to your daughter! What a beautiful ode to her, and I’m sure in real life she’s even more fantastic to know. She now has a new birthday buddy-Baby James was born yesterday morning! Proud Auntie alert :) he’s doing as well as he can be, awaiting a surgery date. JoAnn
ReplyDeleteOh-She will love this! I hope all goes well with the surgeries and that mo too is feeling well.
DeleteSorry late to this...hope your lovely daughter enjoyed her special dayx
ReplyDeleteArilx
I think she enjoyed as best she could considering. she loved her meal.
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