I'm a big Rolling Stone's fan, though I have certain favorites, where the words and music seem ageless. Paint it Black, Satisfaction, and Time is on our side are three favorites. I've been thinking a lot about where, how and who with I spend my time, in fact, it is one of the main reasons I started this blog. We all have the same 24 hours and each of us splices those hours up based on their own necessity, and priorities. I believe there is a relationship between money and time, that goes beyond the "time is money" cliché. After necessities, where we choose to spend other dollars reflects our priorities. When those get out of balance, say a person is working more and more hours to earn more and more money beyond what is needed, but then have little free time to do anything meaningful, life is out of balance. Similarly with those that load their calendar with more and more obligations, then they lose out on simple and of the moment experiences, because they are too busy. In the last year I saw my life spiraling in that work longer and longer, over committed treadmill, and I didn't like what I was seeing.
This week was the final shaking I needed to confirm my calendar and budget needs a good rattling. I won't share much as it is not my story to share, but a lifelong friend lost her husband following a two decade on and off battle with illness. Barely into his 50's, hearing the stories and experiences about this life shared, one knew he didn't let constant worry over shadow a happy life. He put time on his side, and while I am heart broken for his family, I know they know he put them first on his priorities.
My husband and I celebrated our 27th anniversary yesterday. I don't know where the time went, because some days I feel about as immature and stupid as I did at 21! On the way and during dinner, too often our conversation centered around work, and what was going on mostly at my office. We had to enforce a no work rule, but even then references crept in. I don't want to spend my 28th anniversary talking about work-I want work to be a side note on my life, not the all consuming bear it has become. It is harder to do that when you work in an industry that also mirrors personal passion, but the issues I work with can be discussed as societal, and the office workings can be left there. l am exploring other opportunities that while may end up with less pay, should result with less hours of actual work and being "on call" and more room for where to I'd rather be. Of course take home pay will be less, and we don't want to reduce three financial priorities, retirement investment, support for college, or a little travel now and then, so the tips on frugality will really be followed in the blogosphere. I don't think my contribution to the world will be any less. I'll keep you posted.
So the weekend should be a good one. It s cool, but sunny, perfect for getting some long walks and hopefully some apple picking done. I've just had a couple cups of coffee and DD #2 and I devoured 1/2 a tube of Pillsbury cinnamon rolls. She has an event to help with at the public library, so I may spend an hour or so perusing the stacks and reading magazine issues I don't subscribe to. Supper is in the crock pot-kind of a pasta fagioli soup that I made with what I had on hand, so a fair amount of tradeoffs and substitutions. Cross your fingers. What about you all? Any advice for keeping control of the calendar and clock? Have any of you taken a step back in career and salary in order to create more personal time? How did it turn out?