I'm getting better at ignoring other people's unauthorized directives and doing my own thing, and encouraging my own family to do theirs. We're not rude about it, but in the last two years, I have heard each of my kids say, "no thank you, I'd rather not play right now', or "I just need some time to myself". My kids even left at 6:00 last year (having been there since before noon), to go see the latest Star Wars movie, joyful film nerds that they are, but gave family members hugs (even though they are like me-not huggers) and warm wishes before departing. I have to say, my older nephew and nieces husband looked like they wished they would have joined them as the night lingered for several hours more. I finally told DH around 7:30, we were heading home.
My point in my once again rant about DH's family is to tell myself, it is OK, in fact it is good, to like what I like and not have to acquiesce to protocol or preference of others. Of course I am going to humor my mother-in-law and fit with her plans and preference, but other family members, only when it either suits us, or we don't really have a preference. Just because my SIL thinks going to a movie on Christmas would be an awful way to spend even part of the day, it works for mine and thousands of others if the box office numbers indicate anything. I'm also not going to allow myself or my families preferred activities, entertainment, or how we live to be critiqued. I hope I am living better by the motto, as long as no one is hurt and it's legal, do what makes you happy, like what you want to like. Part of my reason for blogging is to "do me", own my life, and if I get criticism, learning I am tough enough to stick to what works for me.
I've been listening to more podcasts lately, trying to amuse my brain with more than just news and talk radio. I've grown fond of the series Deeply Curious, where a young couple, YouTubers, added a pod cast as they were finding while filming, they would start deep conversations about random things they were curious about understanding more. This particular one, which I've linked via YouTube resonated with me. I've spent way too much of my life trying to fit in, trying to like what others expect me to and going along with the loudest personality. My work life has really helped break some of this, but on a personal front, I still don't speak up as often as I should about what I want, what I like, and what I don't. Here is the podcast, Let People Enjoy Things. It is over an hour, so click while you are doing something else or listen by one of the other ways you can access the podcast.