I am a victim of my own over willingness to say yes too often when asked to do something. I've moaned about not feel healthy for a while now. I was supposed to ref volleyball, begged to ref volleyball, a few weeks back to close the season. Well between how I am feeling, my knee acting up, general muscle pain, and then the sadness of yesterdays violence in Florida, I just needed to be home last night. I put out the word early I was not going to ref; either one of the teens could still show up or the games could run without refs on one of the courts. The lowest division games are so senselessness to even have refs since if all the mistakes were called, the games would never end. I guess that is what they ended up doing.
I received a request for a donation for an adult family member going on a mission trip this summer. Don't get me wrong, I support these trips in my church with my kids, in fact I spearhead one of the major fundraisers each year, the Palm Sunday breakfast. I would feel fine if his church was having a fundraiser of some sort and inviting us to attend for the purpose of raising money. Somehow though, it just strikes me odd to be straight up requested money from an adult to go on a trip. Let's face it, most of these mission trips are voluntourism-a little bit of work, but mostly a youth group get away. I guess it doesn't matter really how the group or individuals raise money, and still our choice to give or not. I just tend to have classified these kinds of trips as either the responsibility of the organization or individual youth raising money through various activities like bake sales and car washes. Now that I think about it though, sending out letters to everyone you know was on the list of fundraising ideas when my kids have done them but we never went that route and tended to do the physical fundraisers.
While we haven't said no, I'm reminded that I don't always have to say yes just because I'm asked. It is OK to admit I am sick, admit I am tapped out financially or energy wise. It's OK to just believe and state that my priorities with my time and money are elsewhere.