It's that time of the week to let my mind go wherever and my finger follow. I started this last night, waiting for my daughter outside a dressing room trying to buy at least one dress. Yes, she was stuck home last week, but holy buckets, wait until the last minute much? That will launch my first entry.
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| Oh, Target. It's been a while. |
People Are So Different
My older daughter would have shopped weeks ago and been packed Sunday to leave Friday. This one will be taking clothes out of the dryer at midnight. Both raised the same, I'm probably in the middle in terms of event coordination of the two. I guess they each got 1/2 my style, but disproportionately split. Honestly, this is partially why we all get in each other's nerves after any other extended period. I can give grace for laxidasical time management, but only to a point. My older daughter has a quick tipping point to her frustration. The youngest feels imposed upon when people try to push her to hurry or meet their time frame. If we all end up sharing housing for a period, I anticipate the need for formed guidelines.
Working Elsewhere Thursdays
It became apparent yesterday that not only has DH driven me a bit batty on Thursdays, my daughter got it too. While it's going to be months more working from home, I think I need to at least 1/2 day find an alternative space. He's just in a tense mood and snips at nothing, and takes all his weeks frustration out on whatever's errand or phone task ticked him off for the day. Lord help the people on the other end of the phone. Interesting though, he's not like this at all on Sundays. I think I might have put my finger on it. On Thursdays, he's still in a work mindset, waiting for someone to call, he just never lets it truly be his day off. He won't just ignore a work call either, but will come charging to wherever he left his phone to answer it. Mentally, he's in the store. Thank God for his best friend who at least a few times a month gets him out of the house. He'll start going to the lake too and I'll be rid of him from my hair for the day.
Disappointments in Job Hunting/Hope
DD2 didn't get either fulltime summer internship. The one she finally followed up on only to learn they had made the decision weeks ago, but forgot to send her notice. She's got some applications out and contacts for a couple part time options to piece together a respectable summer job outlook, but not quite resume building. If only one or none pan out, she'll approach the school again for summer school age care and as there's worker shortages in child care, it's pretty much a given they'll still need help. That's her last choice. She said she'd consider a fast food option, but it would be nice for her to have weekends off. She won't go without some work. Interestingly, these are the first interview rejections she's ever received. I guess it was good practice for a cut throat job hunting post graduation!
I was up at 3:00, to the airport and back in bed at 4:45 but time to start my day. I'm tagging along on a house look later with my daughter. The two beauties from she saw online last weekend were gone as suspected by Monday morning. She won't be pushed though to make a less than thorough decision. That's my Friday mind dump. Feel free to comment, tell your own woes of living with other humans, or whatever else you want to share.
Today is a half day for me so I'll be done by 10 am. We have shopping to do tomorrow and I have a bit of planting to do this weekend. The weather is supposed to be gorgeous so I'm looking forward to that.
ReplyDeleteHave a great Friday Sam!!
I feel like we're all living for those gorgeous weather days. Spring was really challenging.
DeleteThe house hunt tag-along sounds like fun. Good for your daughter for not allowing herself to feel pushed. My finish carpenters were in our new place yesterday, and will return again today. I was hoping for a June move, but, realistically, it will probably be July, which should ensure better weather. I would have thought that having moved here in 2019, we'd have maintained the near-minimalist style of the purge, but somehow, there is more stuff--most of it DD's. I can't even think of boxing up her stuff for the move. She's tidy, but likes a lot of stuff. Her elder brother is very messy, but has very few items. It would take less than 30 minutes to box his stuff, and move his clothing. Personaly, I'm quite tidy, and aside from my China sets, (I have 10 which I switch out, while others stay in China cupboard or are in boxes in the linen closet from when we moved here...crazy, I know) I like to keep things simple. Youngest is somewhere in the middle. Like you said, people are different, and love them though we may, we may find certain aspects difficult, at best, if not downright incompatible.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your purge. If nothing, a forced living period will help us all appreciate our own space. I'll not judge on your China sets. If they make you happy, they should be part of your life.
DeleteI wonder if your DD would've shopped last week if not for covid? I can see myself being last minute as well but you're right earlier would've been much better. I hope she can find decent employment, she's done so well so far. Good luck on the househunting,my friend is looking but won't be pushed into anything either!
ReplyDeleteHonestly, probably not. She could have had a list made. Had Tuesday and Wednesday out of isolation and all day Thursday. It's just how she's wired. Good luck to your friend.
DeleteI hope your daughter has a great trip. I think I fall close to her packing mindset.
ReplyDeleteEveryone is different. TheHub is even more last minute than I am.
Good for your daughter not being rushed into finding a house.
Different is good as long as we can negotiate our own time as with there's. It'll be a short period that we're going to manage so can do it.
DeleteMy girls are exactly the same. All different ways of living and they get on each other' s nerves. Then I am supposed to be the referee. So it can be hard. I so understand. The oldest is bossy, the middle is touchy and the youngest, is the youngest....
ReplyDeleteI do not want to be referree ever! It sounds like your oldest might be like your Sissie. Youngest might be like your little Sis, and you and your middle might be peas in a pod.
DeleteAnd I wouldn't say touch- perhaps sensitive/ empathetic. Ugh, I'm lost on your blog comments, and I lost yours in my spam but found it.
DeleteWhile both my sons get along fabulously they are so, so different. For Christmas last year I gave no. 1 a screwdriver and typed up the instruction manual, while no. 2 can and does install entire home heating and cooling systems! That being said, no. 1 works in a field very, very linked to covid (without being a brain, just a grunt) but is the epitome of diplomacy and intimidated by no-one. He is totally capable of holding his own, even around diplomats, whereas no. 2 would shrivel and die if he had to work in an office. Thank goodness we're all different!
ReplyDeleteIt would be interesting to have a crystal ball to look to next year at this time. I'm hoping life is different for all of us in a good way, but the reacclimation to joint household will be interesting.
DeleteI would have two cardinal rules for anyone living with me--don't eat my last banana and don't drink my last Diet Coke. There would be other rules, but the first two are paramount.
ReplyDeleteI didn't know you took your diet coke so seriously. I don't have rules- more boundaries about space. I can buy more things but need to be able to retreat.
DeleteFor your daughter she would most likely have seen several houses and have decided distinct minimum needs such as square footage, location, bedrooms and bathrooms (probably location location). Plus the basic are the bones good?. My daughter and her husband bought about three years ago in Robbinsdale. What a wonderful area and so close to downtown Minneapolis. Their commutes like 15 minutes. Her husband actually works In real estate but it didn’t real help (commercial management). Even then every house sold out from under them, usually 30 showings scheduled within the first 24 hours. …. Cash offers etc. They were so sad over a few houses they lost. They’re in a 1940’s post war house, second owner! It’s beautiful!! It had great bones! My other daughter and I went and spent days steaming wallpaper, painted every room, floor refinished second year. New light fixtures,… as the times gone on. But I have a different opinion than most others, yes your daughter shouldn’t feel pushed into anything but the market is even worse now. I think most people have not met this type of having to decide or you lose. Know your needs, look beyond dated and hopes she finds something! Sorry I can’t seem to not comment as anonymous. Jre
ReplyDeleteYes- she's learned a lot. Yesterday she knew to see the weaknesses that would have been a money drain to resolve, despite how clean and sleek the house looked. Gallons of paint and and an afternoon with friends covers bad colors. A crumbling retaining wall, postage stamp size kitchen, and cracked garage foundation, can't be fixed with a wallpaper steamer and elbow grease. She doesn't mind working on it to make it hers and you're right- the bones and location are pivotal to a decision.
DeleteHow much do you charge for hearing someone's woes I wonder.
ReplyDeleteFree service as I have big ears and time in my hands.
DeleteJre again I have to laugh remembering that first round of house redo. We come from do it yourself people, her husband not. Have more assets and they hire things. Well he left for the weekend and came back and we’d (my two daughters and I) painted a kitchen (after horrible layers of wallpaper), living room, dining room, hall (wallpaper (from even the 40’s under some layers, beautiful) bathroom (wallpaper) and two bedrooms. He was shocked and we could hardly move ha! Funny how another time he left and my daughter on her own retiled the kitchen (it was gold green). She did peel and stick tile, gray, black and white and it looked amazing! He probably got scared to leave wondering what she’d do next.
ReplyDeleteHe was probably amazed at his good fortune marrying such an accomplished woman with family to to boot!
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